When You Hate Your Boss But Love Your Job - The Muse

When You Hate Your Boss But Love Your Job - The MuseWhen You Hate Your Boss But Love Your Job A friend who shall remain nameless has been talking to me a lot lately about how much she loves zu sich job but hates her boss. To be sure, her stories of her managers many misdeeds provoke a horrific reaction in me, and I find myself grasping for encouraging things to say in response. Its elend an easy situation to navigate- but whats the alternative? Leaving today and taking a gamble that everything will line up elsewhere? Yes, having a boss you hate is a big reason that people start the job search, but its not the only way to handle the problem. And if getting a new gig isnt something you want to consider at the moment, then youre going to figure out how to deal with the imperfect scenario great job, crappy boss. 1. Take a Good LookAt yourself, at your boss, at your team and the department youre a part of, at the work you do. This isnt exactly new advice, but have you considered if its yo u thats the problem, or at least a little piece of it? Youre no doubt a fantastic employee and any manager would be lucky to have you working for her, but still, it doesnt hurt to evaluate the reasons that you cant deal with your horrible boss just to rule out your involvement. If she micromanages you, could it because you turn in incomplete products to higher-ups? Or, if shes never around to answer questions, could it be that youve proven yourself to be incredibly reliable and shes not aware youd like more feedback?Figure out exactly what it is about your manager thats problematic and determine if theres anything you can change or address. If theres nothing (and thats possible), maybe you could adjust the way you react to her behavior so you dont escalate situations. For example, if shes constantly emailing you at odd hours, expecting immediate responses, its up to you to gently set guidelines for your response rate- rather than responding snappily.Also, if theres anything, anythin g at all that you find redeeming about her, write it down and look at it whenever she makes you want to quit on the spot. Is she supportive of the companys flex work policy? Does she give you free erst einmal on big, meaty projects? Yes, consider yourself lucky to have the autonomy. Sure, your boss may not be the best manager, but look at the big picture and see how the view is.2. Remind Yourself Why You Love Your JobThats right. Continue to bask in the glow that exists from simply loving your job. Make a list of all of the things about your ort that you dig. Write down everything from unlimited organic milk to your standing desk to being able to work closely with the graphic design team. Nothings too small for this list. And if you are really, sincerely passionate about your position, this should be the easy part.Once you have your list, you can go on doing your work and rejoice in the fact that there is so much that you appreciate and value. Does it make sense to leave all that be hind because of a bad boss? Plenty of people make that very move, but unless your manager is causing you severe anxiety or making it so you dread going into the office every day, try to really hone in on the parts of it that are working well. Avoid letting your big, bad boss see you rattled. If this person is as insecure or incompetent as he needs to be to be making one of his reports so miserable, it wont do you any good to let him think hes gotten you flustered. Try to stay positive in his presence, even if that means grinning and bearing it in the moment (and unleashing a rant to your best friend later). If you love your job, it probably means youre doing good work, work youre proud of. Concentrate on maintaining that stride, and maybe- just, maybe- some of your frustrations will begin to dissipate.3. Wait it OutIf youve examined the situation thoroughly and concluded that theres nothing wrong with anything youre doing and your boss is, indeed, a really awful person, trust that y oure not the only one who sees it. Few truly terrible individuals can fool others for very long. If your manager regularly undermines you, if she takes credit for work youve completed, if she puts on a totally different face in front of the CEO, rest assured that its highly unlikely youre the only one seeing the manipulative side of her. No matter how much praise is bestowed on her now, its probable that, at some point in the (hopefully near) future, someone else will take stock of whats happening, and eventually shell be put in her place. One can hope, right?In the event that its not just a brutal personality youre dealing with- the job description didnt say being nice was a requirement- make sure youre documenting everything. You deserve fair treatment and respect for the work that you do, and if your manager is disrespectful and manipulative in emails, dont delete them. Its a headache thinking of what leveraging the paper trail would mean, but its better to have leverage than not . But honestly, if the love-my-job-hate-my-boss situation doesnt improve over time- you cant deal, her behavior worsens, she doesnt get the boot but rather gets promoted- you might have to move on. In reality, its probably a better use of your time to start the job search than it is to convince a higher-up or an HR person that your boss needs to go. If a large part of the reason you adore your job is because of the type of work itself, look into companies with openings for similar positions. If, on the other hand, the company culture and all the people who arent your boss are your primary reasons for finding happiness at the office, then start poking around for a potential internal transfer. Either way, you deserve to work with people who bring out the best in you- so dont let a great job keep you from working with an awesome boss. Somewhere out there is a position thatll provide you with awesome responsibilities and a manager youll love.